When things happen to and around us that are too much for us to take in, we often forget them. But our bodies often remember, and then bring out our memories when we are “ready.” How can we handle the memories when they emerge? How do we love ourselves through the process?
Many of us, including Truthteller Lisa Kohn, have learned to take the hardest path, to hunker down and push through, to do what it takes. Only recently did she learn that the easy way is okay, and in fact—it’s good. In learning to be easy on herself, Lisa discovered that she can enjoy the space that gives her.
Truthteller Lisa Kohn realized during a yoga practice that while she was “kinda” pausing in her practice and in her daily life, she wasn’t really pausing. Then she realized that she had a choice, just like we all do. We can take more pauses—actual, real pauses—and benefit all around.
Even in the strangest advice, there can be value. Even in the messed up things others say to us, there can be a glimpse of love, or an intention of goodness. There doesn’t seem like much fatherly love in, “Don’t ever shoot up smack on Second Avenue,” but Lisa Kohn manages to find the love and inspiration there.
I’ve often said that we teach people how to treat us. A lot of us put up with behavior that is harmful, or at the least, disrespectful to who we are, but we don’t have to. Truthteller Lisa Kohn’s friend quite literally slapped some sense into her, and I have to admit, even though I don’t condone any kind of violence, this was a lesson I won’t soon forget. Has anyone ever taught you such a lesson out of love? How did they do it? Feel free to share in the comments!